Comments on: It’s Tough Being Black! http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/2009/10/it%e2%80%99s-tough-being-black.html Anything and everything to do with Zimbabwe and it's people Wed, 01 Feb 2012 19:46:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Nina http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/2009/10/it%e2%80%99s-tough-being-black.html/comment-page-1#comment-45175 Nina Sat, 07 Jan 2012 22:35:02 +0000 http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/?p=234#comment-45175 It's all very well for fortune to say his wedding was not a show!! For those who doesn't know him like I do, he is nolonger with the so called love of his life. Not sure how anyone can justify this. They live 2 countries apart and hate each other's family and friends. Makes me sick just because you are on some new Zealand tv doesn't make you a celebrity lol It’s all very well for fortune to say his wedding was not a show!! For those who doesn’t know him like I do, he is nolonger with the so called love of his life. Not sure how anyone can justify this. They live 2 countries apart and hate each other’s family and friends. Makes me sick just because you are on some new Zealand tv doesn’t make you a celebrity lol

]]> By: fortune http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/2009/10/it%e2%80%99s-tough-being-black.html/comment-page-1#comment-649 fortune Thu, 18 Feb 2010 09:06:47 +0000 http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/?p=234#comment-649 thanx and sorry for making it sound personal its jus that the first tym l read this l felt as if people missunderstood my point for getting married that it was not for a good stage show or any similar reasons ,but just a day l worked hard and plan for which woever wants to do can do with out spending wot they dont have l will be open to the world now l did not apply for loans and has never applied for a credit card l wrk hrd make money run my own company l encourage many zimbos to do well have helped almost every Zimbabwean whom l Know who got married here in Newzealand for free with sound system transport etc ...lve helped football teams with cash and uniforms...done alot out there not from loan funds or looking for my name to be published but coz l come from a hrd wrkin church family...all l can say we are black in colour but whites admire how some of us think and wrk so if we black brothers want to look flash lets wrk hard and get all we want dont be pulled back by people 'if u dont do well people talk negative ...if u do well they stilll find one or two negative things to say) so people lets wrk hrd and live our lives in our own way... thanx and sorry again for the first post u doing a good thing runin the website we will support this site tah! thanx and sorry for making it sound personal its jus that the first tym l read this l felt as if people missunderstood my point for getting married that it was not for a good stage show or any similar reasons ,but just a day l worked hard and plan for which woever wants to do can do with out spending wot they dont have l will be open to the world now l did not apply for loans and has never applied for a credit card l wrk hrd make money run my own company l encourage many zimbos to do well have helped almost every Zimbabwean whom l Know who got married here in Newzealand for free with sound system transport etc …lve helped football teams with cash and uniforms…done alot out there not from loan funds or looking for my name to be published but coz l come from a hrd wrkin church family…all l can say we are black in colour but whites admire how some of us think and wrk so if we black brothers want to look flash lets wrk hard and get all we want dont be pulled back by people ‘if u dont do well people talk negative …if u do well they stilll find one or two negative things to say) so people lets wrk hrd and live our lives in our own way… thanx and sorry again for the first post u doing a good thing runin the website we will support this site
tah!

]]> By: Reflections http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/2009/10/it%e2%80%99s-tough-being-black.html/comment-page-1#comment-638 Reflections Sun, 14 Feb 2010 00:09:05 +0000 http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/?p=234#comment-638 whilst I see the writers perspective, I can also feel and see Fortune's point and frustration over this article. All I can say is that, as a writer, one has to be careful when using examples not to put everything in one box - even though your hypothesis is good and valid, do your reseach well when using live examples. We have to be careful about the message we bring out to the world, i.e. we have to be careful not to stereotyping ourselves. Take for instance, I come from a very conservative, down to earth Zimbabwean family; My parents always believed in using only the money they had (in cash). Even at those times when loans could be taken at a reasonable interest rate and all, e.g. my mother preferred to save up until she had the full cash for a small ordinary car to take her from point a to b. (my father always had an ordinary company car and he was satisfied with that), ps. note that with all the assets (e.g. house) they had, including good salary slips, they had enough collateral they could have used for a small/big secured personal loan for e.g. a bigger or more "flashy" personal car, or even a bigger house in a more "posh" area of our town, but all that just didn't tickle their fancy! One thing they always prioritized though was food (which we as kids didn't mind at all!!!) Our fridge was ALWAYS packed with all sorts of things. Including lots of fruits, mazoe orange crush/cream soda, fresh fruit juices and oh oh oh those lemon cream, Eat some more and Marie biscuits and biiiiiig packets of corn - culs (I guess that explains my love for food today!!!!) Sometimes after work, my dad would come home with bags of groceries from OK, whilst my mom came with more or less the same ingredients from TM after work on the same day!, so the "Ah handina kuziva kuti muchapfura ne kwa OK/TM" (translating into "oh I didn't know you would pass by OK/TM after work - some local grocery chains) is something we heard way too often between the two in our home! Otherwise, generally, your (to the writer) reflections are valid and well written indeed and I hope they will give some people (be it black, white, indian, yellow ...) who induldge in such personal destructive acts just to keep up appearances food for thought ;-). whilst I see the writers perspective, I can also feel and see Fortune’s point and frustration over this article. All I can say is that, as a writer, one has to be careful when using examples not to put everything in one box – even though your hypothesis is good and valid, do your reseach well when using live examples. We have to be careful about the message we bring out to the world, i.e. we have to be careful not to stereotyping ourselves. Take for instance, I come from a very conservative, down to earth Zimbabwean family; My parents always believed in using only the money they had (in cash). Even at those times when loans could be taken at a reasonable interest rate and all, e.g. my mother preferred to save up until she had the full cash for a small ordinary car to take her from point a to b. (my father always had an ordinary company car and he was satisfied with that), ps. note that with all the assets (e.g. house) they had, including good salary slips, they had enough collateral they could have used for a small/big secured personal loan for e.g. a bigger or more “flashy” personal car, or even a bigger house in a more “posh” area of our town, but all that just didn’t tickle their fancy!

One thing they always prioritized though was food (which we as kids didn’t mind at all!!!) Our fridge was ALWAYS packed with all sorts of things. Including lots of fruits, mazoe orange crush/cream soda, fresh fruit juices and oh oh oh those lemon cream, Eat some more and Marie biscuits and biiiiiig packets of corn – culs (I guess that explains my love for food today!!!!) Sometimes after work, my dad would come home with bags of groceries from OK, whilst my mom came with more or less the same ingredients from TM after work on the same day!, so the “Ah handina kuziva kuti muchapfura ne kwa OK/TM” (translating into “oh I didn’t know you would pass by OK/TM after work – some local grocery chains) is something we heard way too often between the two in our home!

Otherwise, generally, your (to the writer) reflections are valid and well written indeed and I hope they will give some people (be it black, white, indian, yellow …) who induldge in such personal destructive acts just to keep up appearances food for thought ;-) .

]]> By: fortune http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/2009/10/it%e2%80%99s-tough-being-black.html/comment-page-1#comment-617 fortune Mon, 08 Feb 2010 09:24:37 +0000 http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/?p=234#comment-617 it's tough being black....Yes it is this is how tough it can be when some people like me who work hard earn their money and take their time to plan on an event which only happens once in a life time do their best to have what the have dreamt this day to be ......but people or judges who think we putting a show come and think otherwise...just for the record all l spent was well within our budget we set goals in life for ourselves and try to meet them not to please people but for our future, am sorry if to you this looked like a show but l am already on tv enough times so believe me when l say show bizz is not good this was just a wedding which we and frendz planned and worked as a team to get our day to be something we and our kids can always look back to and not regret. pliz feel free to publish this advice who ever thinks it was a show they are wrong it only takes one with a dream and willin to wrk hrd to get what u wnt in lyf...for those keen on getting married we have a perfect wedding planner and other useful equipment for hire at Zim rates(l mean we can talk) thanx Fortune 0211522203 it’s tough being black….Yes it is this is how tough it can be when some people like me who work hard earn their money and take their time to plan on an event which only happens once in a life time do their best to have what the have dreamt this day to be ……but people or judges who think we putting a show come and think otherwise…just for the record all l spent was well within our budget we set goals in life for ourselves and try to meet them not to please people but for our future, am sorry if to you this looked like a show but l am already on tv enough times so believe me when l say show bizz is not good this was just a wedding which we and frendz planned and worked as a team to get our day to be something we and our kids can always look back to and not regret.

pliz feel free to publish this advice who ever thinks it was a show they are wrong it only takes one with a dream and willin to wrk hrd to get what u wnt in lyf…for those keen on getting married we have a perfect wedding planner and other useful equipment for hire at Zim rates(l mean we can talk)

thanx
Fortune 0211522203

]]> By: Barkha Dhar http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/2009/10/it%e2%80%99s-tough-being-black.html/comment-page-1#comment-611 Barkha Dhar Wed, 03 Feb 2010 17:45:31 +0000 http://www.livingzimbabwe.com/?p=234#comment-611 Hi, What a post!Honest and commendable.Liked it so much. Thanks for sharing Barkha Dhar USA Hi,
What a post!Honest and commendable.Liked it so much.
Thanks for sharing
Barkha Dhar
USA

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